how to write your past self a love letter: a simple & accessible guide for a powerful self-love practice 💌

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Oct 23

hi sweet friend 💕

writing a love letter to your past self can be a powerful & potentially healing expression of gratitude, care, & love for everything they've done for us. it can also be a path towards self-forgiveness, moving forward after painful experiences, & so much more 💕

i wrote my past self a love letter because i’m here today because of my them. they worked so fcking hard to get me to this very moment. they went through so much & i’m STILL HERE, despite everything, because of THEM. i want my past self & the difficult work they did to survive to be appreciated. i want to share my gratitude & love for them.

that’s my why. what’s yours?

5 REASONS TO WRITE YOUR PAST SELF A LOVE LETTER

to forgive & thank your past self
to move forward after painful experiences
to begin healing shame & self-hatred
to develop a self-love practice
to blend self-love with creative expression

REFLECTION QUESTIONS

think back to 5-10 years ago & jot down your answers to these questions in your notes app or journal:

🩷 who were you?

❤️ what were you like?

🧡 what was going on in your life?

💛 what was going well?

💚 what were you proud of?

🩵 what did you accomplish?

💙 what were you struggling with?

💜 what did you dream of?

🩷 & finally: what did you desperately need to hear? ✨

CHOOSING A MEDIUM

now let's choose a medium for your love letter; your love letter can take many forms, shapes, &/or containers. it doesn’t need to be a typical “letter” if that doesn’t resonate with you; there are SO many possibilities!

some potential forms/shapes/containers:

🩷 poetry

❤️ affirmation jar

🧡 handwritten or typed letter

💛 zine

💚 collage

🩵 art journaling

💙 painting

💜 self-portrait

🩷 mixed media

create your love letter in whatever medium feels most accessible & authentic or even interesting & enjoyable to you.

WRITING YOUR LETTER

finally, it's time to write your letter, using whatever medium you've chosen.

when writing or creating your letter, you might want to incorporate:

🩷 affirmations

❤️ supportive & loving words

🧡 compassionate self-talk

💛 what you’ve accomplished since then

💚 how you’ve transformed & grown as a person

🩵 lessons you’ve learned

💙 what you love about your past self

💜 things your past self did that you’re proud of or grateful for

🩷 what your past self would love about your life or yourself today

write it like you're writing it to someone you love (this could be a child or a companion animal, even.) use your authentic voice &/also experiment with & practice self-love, even & especially if it feels unfamiliar to you, through compassionate & empathetic self-talk, heartfelt affirmations, & supportive + loving words.